Get Connected With Your Dog: The Power of How You Refer to Them
If you’ve ever wondered how to bond with your dog, the answer might be simpler than you think. Beyond walks, play, and training, connection often starts with something we rarely consider: the words we use.
Saying “the dog” can create distance—like they’re a task or object. Shifting to “our dog” (or better yet, using their name) builds closeness, empathy, and a stronger sense of belonging.
This small change in how you refer to a dog is one of the easiest ways to nurture your relationship with your dog.
How Language Builds Connection With Your Dog
Let’s compare:
“I need to feed the dog.”
“It’s time to feed our dog.”
The first feels like a chore. The second feels like care for a family member.
When we think about connection with my dog or ways to get connected with your dog, language is a surprisingly powerful starting point. It shifts your mindset from seeing them as “another task” to recognising them as a valued companion.
Everyday Examples: “The Dog” vs. “Our Dog”
Here’s how this plays out in real life:
“The Dog” Language vs “Our Dog” Language
“The dog chewed the shoes. vs “Our dog was restless and chewed the shoes
“The dog is outside. vs “Our dog is enjoying time outside.
”The dog has to go to the vet. vs ”Our dog has a vet check-up today.
“The dog barks too much. vs “Our dog is trying to tell us something with their barking.”
When you consider how do people refer to their dogs, you’ll notice the difference: one version creates distance, the other creates connection.
Why This Shift Strengthens Your Relationship With Your Dog
Reinforces belonging – Saying our dog makes it clear they’re part of the family.
Encourages empathy – You see behaviours as communication, not “problems.”
Strengthens connection – You feel closer because you’re including them in your shared life.
Models respect – Just as you wouldn’t say “the kid” about your child, calling them “our dog” shows dignity.
If you’ve ever asked yourself, “How do you refer to someone’s dog?”—the answer is simple: with language that shows respect and care.
Practical Ways to Get Connected With Your Dog
Here are small but meaningful steps you can try:
Notice your words – Replace “the dog” with “our dog” (or their name).
Encourage family members – Make it a household habit.
Use names often – Dogs light up when they hear their names spoken warmly.
Lead by example – Others will follow your language when they hear the bond in your words.
These changes may feel small, but they’re some of the easiest ways to bond with your dog day to day.
The Bigger Picture: Dogs as Family Members
At the heart of it, connection with your dog starts with how you speak about them.
When we shift from “the dog” to “our dog,” we’re saying:
They’re not an afterthought.
They’re not a chore.
They’re not just an animal in the house.
They’re a family member. ❤️
Because at the end of the day, language matters with dogs—and it shapes your entire relationship with your dog.
Celebrate Connection This International Dog Day
Remember, every day is an opportunity to show love and appreciation for our dogs. But International Dog Day on August 26 each year is an extra special occasion to go above and beyond in celebrating the joy, love, and companionship our dogs bring into our lives.
It’s the perfect day to reflect on how you can bond with your dog, strengthen your relationship, and acknowledge them not just as “the dog,” but as our dog—a true family member.
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